It pays to
present this from a girl's perspective - so...
...any guy out there looking for love ought
to consider these ten points for a long and satisfying Pinoy love life -
starting at number 10:
10 - Your girlfriend is never always yours
Many guys make the mistake that once a
girl they like says "yes" to being their girlfriend, she's his
forever. (Really?) Girls are humans with feelings and also with a thinking
brain - they aren't toys as most guys think. Try making the relationship boring
or do something she really hates and don't be surprised if she leaves you the
next day. So don't be an asshole and treat her right.
Any exceptions? It takes effort to
make a relationship last - so there is no exception.
9 - Use absence to make the heart grow fonder
After two or three monthsaries, it can get
pretty annoying for her to always see you. That can also be a lot worse if both
of you are living together. So give her a time off and let her enjoy her
individuality once in a while. In her moments alone, she may well miss you and
crave to again to relive your moments together afterwards.
Any exceptions? Unless both of you
REALLY want to be together always, then ignore this rule and get married
(Wedding bells na ever) - JOKE! Well, maybe you might but I won't discuss that
here... Anyway, there are some guys who may find it a problem. So be honest
with your girl on wanting a time off for yourself BUT assure her that it'll
still be the two of you always. Otherwise, if she is the NEEDY type (that is,
she unreasonably wants you in her sight 24/7) then it's your fault to have
ignored point 2 in this list (You'll soon know why...)
8 - Seal things with a gesture
The line, "Can you be my
girlfriend?" sounds so elementary sixth grade that we girls would wonder
as to what planet you're from. So if you're assuring us that you aren't a
retard, keep yourself from asking us that. Be indirect - take us somewhere
romantic or fun with just the two of us and follow point 7, then you'd know
already it is officially US. (Why point 7? Keep on reading...)
Any exceptions? If you have read
point 2, then you'd be aware there definitely is. Some girls would be dying to
hear that from you, so go ahead - unless point 7 has guided you to do so....
Hence, next item please....
7 - Be wary of the signs
We girls are so annoyed with guys who are
so "assuming". By that, we mean guys who are deluded into believing
that we "like" him just because we spoke to him first, we were the
first to initiate a chat with him on Facebook - blah, blah, blah, etc... (Girl to
Assuming Guy: can you buy me a gun so that I can kill you? We just met, like,
25 minutes and 36 seconds ago but your hand is on MY ass....Ohhh, I really want
you DEAD!)
But we're also SO frustrated with guys WE
REALLY Like because he's too dense to take the Hint (Girl madly in love
internal dialog: Arrghhh!!! Why are you waiting for next year to just simply
KISS me?!) Okay, you’d ask: how the hell do we know? Two words, gentlemen: body
language. You can tell that when you get too close to us and we don't give that
"WTF?!” stare. Hold our hands at random when we're out strolling and we
won't complain - in fact, we’d grip your hand so tightly that we'll love it.
(Girl's internal dialog to Guy She Likes: Fuck, just holding hands?! When the
hell are you going to caress me all over?! Ergh! You dense bastard!) In case we
resist, just back off and say sorry because it was accident (but please, don't
make it too obvious so that your apology will be very convincing). But stop
from gauging us from time to time - for as they say, "Only the persistent
get lucky".
Any exceptions? So many guys
either get friendzoned or just plain banned from a girl's life because they
have ignored her body language or reaction. It then pays to always bear this
point in mind, for there definitely is no exception.
6 - Do the romantically unexpected
Nothing can sweep us girls off our feet
than a guy who gets to give us what we want. But this doesn't mean that you
have to be super rich to buy us what we want. It also doesn't mean that you
must play hero for us. If you'd taken the time to reflect on point 2, you'd get
an idea from what to expect from the girl of your desire - which turns out to
be so simple enough.
Any exceptions? Nope, none
unfortunately. Nothing is more seductive than a guy who takes the effort to do
so.
5 - Focus on the person, not on the body
A guy who makes sex his sole focus in a
relationship just both scares and disgusts us. It doesn't look good for a guy
who stares at us as if he's taking off our clothes bit by bit. More so if he
talks to us and we notice that his eyes are wandering onto other sensitive
parts of our anatomy. Actually, we don’t want to admit outright that we also
like sex. But it won’t look good on us if we give the direct impression we’re such
easy lays. For now, keep your porn fantasies of us to yourself and treat us
nice - because, who knows? If you've been patient and genuinely nice...
Any exceptions? Ignore this, guys,
and get ready to be permanently banned from our lives. You're not even worth
being friendzoned if that's the case (it doesn't take a genius to know why...)
4 - Act friendly but not as a friend
Hmmm - confusing isn't it? Not really -
if you've already come across points 1, 2, and 3. So don't hang around her too long and dream of ways to make her think about you, basing from what you know about her. Don't give the impression that you're too familiar with her - but make sure you know her shifting moods to keep from offending her. That said, you're saved from being
friend-zoned.
Any exceptions? Obviously, when
you act as a friend then you will be just a friend to her. There is no
exception.
3 - Approach indirectly
Unless a guy rates low on her instant
desirability scale, it's love at first sight for her. Girls put up a resistance
when they feel a guy is interested in them. So, they put him in the friend category
for the time being. When meeting the girl of your desire, try to know where she
hangs out often so that you can run into her. Just make your meetings brief if
she's alone so that it would not appear scripted. Avoid meeting her in awkward
situations – you’ll only appear as an asshole to her, or worse. But if it is
unavoidable, your sense of humor will be a definite plus for you in those
situations. Back off ASAP when you've made her comfortable and kept her from
being suspicious. Most important thing to remember here is, use whatever you
know about the girl to steal her heart. (Again, reading point 2 would you help
you understand why) If the girl is with
a friend, approach the friend but not her. Take time to make her friends your
friends - since they can help a lot in convincing her that you're good BF
material. Later on, they may even help you when you and the girl happen to be
in a misunderstanding.
Any exceptions? As with point 4,
there is no exception.
2 - Know your mark
There is such a thing as compatibility –
not every girl is meant to be with a certain guy and vice-versa. Though a girl
seems she’s into you, better think twice – is she even worth it? That girl you
like but who ignores you? Well, she maybe the one…or maybe not. So, how do you
find out who’s the one? First, know AND firmly decide what sort of girl you
want. But don’t think of the perfect girl – don’t expect anything flawless from
someone who’s also human like you (and I’m not just talking about our legs).
Even the hottest angelic model can also be a slut from hell in private – think
Denice Cornejo. That said, always consider a girl’s fault that you can live
with. Want needy girls? If you’re needy yourself then go for her – but learn to
live with her moments of insecurity and unreasonable jealousy (Needy girl
internal dialog: He’s supposed to see me 10 seconds ago after class. Who the
hell’s he seeing with behind my back?!) Love a beautiful gold digger? Unless
you’re a super-rich haciendero’s grandson who doesn't worry about not having
enough money, she maybe heaven to you. But you need to put up with her
uncontrollable spending – that is, if you can positively turn it around (I
would love to explain that last point further but that’s for another article…)
Once you've solidly decided on your target girl, take the time to who she
really is by legally stalking her. You can try Facebook but it’s not reliable –
privacy settings can keep a lot from you and she may not even post revealing
things about her. Befriend her friends instead and ask them about her in an
indirect way without giving a hint that you’re after her. Observe from a
distance so that you won’t appear creepy to her –get to know what guy really
makes her heart flutter. Reliable knowledge is power, so they say, and only
those prepared with it always gets the girl. Regarding beauty, it’s not worth
it. Looks fade – and if your affection does too, then you have no business
having a girlfriend.
Any exceptions? Many guys have had their love lives ruined
because they picked the wrong girl. They even wished the girl had them
friendzoned in the first place than being their girlfriend. Ignore this rule
then and enjoy a life of misery.
1 - Make something out of yourself
No girl would be in her right mind to
have a loser for a boyfriend – even if he looks like Mario Maurer or Lee Min-ho.
Pretenders are also another sort of losers who play on appearances just to get
the girl. So guys, do yourself a favor and be real – start upgrading yourself.
Go to the gym and beef up. Find some way to legally make a lot of money so that
you won’t come up short for anything (even on dates with the object of your
desire). By the way, you need not tell us you’re doing all that stuff – you’ll
look like you’re bragging to us. We girls notice anyway… When you let your
actions speak for yourself in a subtle way, it turns us on. Such an impression
scores big on us – so don’t be surprised if you find us trying hard to get your
attention.
Any exceptions? Only losers would ignore this most important point of all. Unless you
are one, don’t try looking for an exception to this…
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Salute. :)
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